It has recently occurred to me how much our generation is so obsessed with beauty and 'perfection'.
In turn, we take that obsession down the negative road and judge people based on their looks more than their inner beauty. This year I've started coming out of my shell and going for more social gatherings and etcetera. And although I've gotten to know some great people and have had some great experiences, reality has hit me. For example, the 1975 concert and the recent meet-up with Jenn Im(I didn't actually get to meet her tho the queue was too long!).
When I was in line, I felt so out of place mostly because everyone around me was almost 5 years older than me... and because as I looked around I felt this immense insecurity. Everyone had their doc martin boots or their heels and their red lipstick and their cat-eye winged eyeliner and I was literally there with a bare face, white T-shirt, shorts and sneakers. That's pretty much the result of my low self-esteem but as the hours passed I became more and more self-conscious and at the same time, disappointed in the people around me.
Girls would point out other girls and snigger about how they look to their friends. They'd throw dirty looks at each other that plainly stated "she's so weird" or "she's such a slut". Sometimes it felt like even the people I was with didn't want to be associated with me at all.
Why? I don't understand.
Why would people put others down simply by their looks? Why would people find it so entertaining to talk about people in that way? It's disappointing because when we were younger, anyone who was about the same age as me was seen as a new friend that calls for a celebration. But now, when people see each other, the teenage or youth population especially, they see each other as competition. They see the need to be better or the best.
"omg she's such a wannabe tumblr girl"
VS
"omg she can be on tumblr; she's so pretty"
I can't tell you how frequently I hear the first statement as opposed to the second. Of course they are not always the same words, but I hear negative things more than positive things a lot of the time.
I also want to put this out there. The word "slut" is not to be thrown around the way it currently is. It's original definition is a female who sleeps around and is considered to have loose sexual morals/low character. And the only person who can come to the conclusion that they have "loose sexual morals" is the person herself. We all have different values and morals. And anyone else is in no way entitled to state whether or not someone is a 'slut' or not. So keep your negative comments to yourself. It's actually disgusting and very unnattractive to hear such words from someone.
My theory on this is that teenagers/youths(especially the female population) are just really hard on themselves and insecure. Although racism is rare in Singapore, it turns out that most of us are actually 'racist' to our own 'race'. Since ages ago, Eurasians and Europeans have always been seen as superior to Asians. And although that has died down a little bit, I can't help but notice that it is still prevalent in our society. And I think that's because the media and everything around us makes us believe that long, blonde curly hair, big blue eyes, long legs and big lips is perfection. We idolise and look up to celebrities that are mostly Eurasian. Even I do realise that I find myself admiring any Eurasian on the street.
Although I do joke about finding an 'ang moh' boyfriend(which my friends would know about), I really don't have anything against Asian guys. I think it's sad that so many Asians around the world don't appreciate their race and ethnicity.
In turn, this insecurity will lead to a lot of jealousy and tension between Asians themselves because they have this mindset that if they are the way they are... they should be the best.
They don't take this jealousy and turn it into admiration or positivity. They take it down the negative and lonely and hateful road.
Imagine how beautiful and loving our society would be if we actually looked at someone and found beauty in them. Instead of competition. Imagine if all of us said good and nice things and smile or even go up to the person and compliment them.
Sometimes we don't like the style of clothes they have or they have a crazy coloured hair... But that still doesn't give us any right to judge them for it. Every individual is so special and unique and we ought to learn to appreciate the diversity around us. It's beautiful that way.
I'm sorry for the lack of posts lately! I can't tell you how many times I've opened this page to write a new blogpost but just ended up staring at the blank page. Please do drop me some blog suggestions as well as video ideas! I have been uploading videos on my Youtube every week since the holidays started! Thanks so much for reading.
MUCH LOVE, SEE YA
Signing off...
CLL
{Hopefully this makes it easier for you (:}
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My theory on this is that teenagers/youths(especially the female population) are just really hard on themselves and insecure. Although racism is rare in Singapore, it turns out that most of us are actually 'racist' to our own 'race'. Since ages ago, Eurasians and Europeans have always been seen as superior to Asians. And although that has died down a little bit, I can't help but notice that it is still prevalent in our society. And I think that's because the media and everything around us makes us believe that long, blonde curly hair, big blue eyes, long legs and big lips is perfection. We idolise and look up to celebrities that are mostly Eurasian. Even I do realise that I find myself admiring any Eurasian on the street.
Although I do joke about finding an 'ang moh' boyfriend(which my friends would know about), I really don't have anything against Asian guys. I think it's sad that so many Asians around the world don't appreciate their race and ethnicity.
In turn, this insecurity will lead to a lot of jealousy and tension between Asians themselves because they have this mindset that if they are the way they are... they should be the best.
They don't take this jealousy and turn it into admiration or positivity. They take it down the negative and lonely and hateful road.
Imagine how beautiful and loving our society would be if we actually looked at someone and found beauty in them. Instead of competition. Imagine if all of us said good and nice things and smile or even go up to the person and compliment them.
Sometimes we don't like the style of clothes they have or they have a crazy coloured hair... But that still doesn't give us any right to judge them for it. Every individual is so special and unique and we ought to learn to appreciate the diversity around us. It's beautiful that way.
I'm sorry for the lack of posts lately! I can't tell you how many times I've opened this page to write a new blogpost but just ended up staring at the blank page. Please do drop me some blog suggestions as well as video ideas! I have been uploading videos on my Youtube every week since the holidays started! Thanks so much for reading.
MUCH LOVE, SEE YA
Signing off...
CLL
{Hopefully this makes it easier for you (:}
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